Today’s “twenty somethings” are quite the phenomenon. Media outlets and the like just love poking at and dissecting young adults in their twenties like some bizarre organisms under a microscope.
Whenever I come across yet another article online about twenty somethings, I roll my eyes. At this point, I think I’ve heard it all.
With that said, I came across this article the other day and it actually resonated with me. It hits on thoughts I’ve been having lately. I wanted to share it- and comment on its points.
So. Five lies that twenty somethings need to stop believing.
1. I’m The Only One Struggling
This one stems from the old comparison trap, which I admittedly struggle with from time to time. I think anyone at any age is susceptible to this.
I’m proud to say that I’ve filled my life with a lot of friends who are hard-working and driven. Some are in graduate school, some are traveling the world, some have moved and started promising careers.
Then I look inward. What do I see? Well, I’m still living in the city that I was born and raised in. The city that I’ve been vowing to move away from for oh…probably a good five years now? I’ve had bad luck with jobs and have essentially been jumping from one dead-end job to the next since I’ve graduated. I have my moments when I feel down and I think about what all of my friends are doing, and become envious. But, I have to say, those moments are happening less and less these days. Life is not a competition.
You know what else has helped with this one? Deleting my personal Facebook two years ago. Facebook is perfect for anyone who wants to participate in a little self-loathing and masochism. I guess other forms of social media (and even blogs) can contribute to this, too. The Internet is a wonderful tool, but it also bums me out a lot of the time. Knowing when to disconnect is key.
2. I Should Be Successful by Now! Like Right Now!
I think this plays on the millennial stereotype of instant gratification. I like to think that I have a realistic approach to this one. I know that it’s going to take time and hard work to get to where I want to be. It’s just easy to get discouraged and overwhelmed along the way. One step at a time. Even though I make comments about how I’m “so old,” I know that 24 is actually quite young in the adult world.
3. Life is Not Turning Out Like it Was Supposed To
This is something that I’ve learned to let go of. I used to say things like, “I never pictured my life turning out this way.” and “I never thought that I’d be this lost/confused/etc.”
When I was in middle school and even high school, I thought that by 24, I would have a solid job and solid romantic relationship. And… oh hey, here I am and I’m nowhere near having either of those. But that’s okay. I’ve learned to let go of those old thoughts and predictions. I feel grateful that I’m still here on this earth to keep pursuing these things. The future is so unpredictable.
4. I Don’t Have What it Takes
I double-majored in Communication and English Writing/Journalism in college. Since graduating, there have been times where I’ve regretted what I chose to study. I should have done something more concrete, more stable, I thought. Like business. Or something in the sciences. But I know myself, and I know I would have hated either of those. I loved both of my majors; I took a lot of interesting courses and had some incredible professors. I initially wanted to go into broadcast journalism but decided that it was not for me.
I feared that I wouldn’t stand out among the thousands of other English majors out there when it came time to apply for all these random jobs. But that’s not for me to decide. I’m not going to let unfounded self-doubt take over.
I love my alma mater. #nofilter
5. I am a Failure
“Defeat is not the worst of failures. Not to have tried is the true failure.”
…And oh have I been trying. Just about everything. And will continue to do so.
Do you struggle with any of these “lies”?